Jodi Wellman on LinkedIn: Excited to join Jennifer McConnell at Living Legacy for a conversation… (2024)

One of the early researchers in the field of positive psychology, Chris Peterson, was asked to sum up positive psychology (the scientific study of what makes life worth living) in two words or less. What do you think his answer was?A) "Housebroken pets."B) "Red wine."C) "Other people."I know, I know. It should be A + B, but he said C.Otherpeople.(*Here is the pause we'll take for us introverts to roll our eyes.*) (Can we all agree thatother peopleare made better with the addition of the aforementioned red wine?)Peterson later elaborated:“Other people matter, and there may be no happy hermits.”Consider the energy gained by being around humans you like or find interesting (so, not the Debbie Downers and energy vampires who need to be ix-nayed from your life). . . . That’s what we’re after: positive energy from others.Leading researchers have concluded that good relationships with others may be the single most important source of life satisfaction and emotional well-being, across different ages and cultures.Onestudy’sfindings were staggering: people with social relationships realize a 50 percent increase in odds of survival (compared to people without buddies, across the study period).(This study aggregated data from 148 independent studies, looking at three hundred thousand people who were followed around for an average of 7.5 years; the evidence is a tad empirically rigorous.)Keep reading the blog post for the scoop on relationships at work and how we shed friends as we age ... along with an encouragement to connect with someone today, even if it’s to make a “let’s get together” date (in person or otherwise). Do it now. Don't wait.Life's too short to let the good relationships languish.Send a text/ email/ handwritten letter/ voice memo. . . . NOW! Or make a phone call if you must. . . . but just don't FaceTime people out of the blue. That's grounds for relationship termination, Friendo.#fourthousandmondays #connections #relationshipsatwork

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What a great time talking to the incredible Ilene Schaffer, MA, PCC on her What's Possible Podcast... we spoke about how to stuff more life into life, and how to make sure regrets don't haunt us at the end (or on the way to the end). Such a great chat with a total pro. Check it out!

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Okay, admit it: you're as enthralled with the "Desuckify Work" name as I am, and you feel compelled to listen to TJ Bennett, ACC 🐱's podcast (yes! The one with me on "remembering we all must die").It's not morbid; it's fun, there are cat images, and thought-provoking questions. TJ's amazing! Check it out (along with my custom sound effect that signifies life's getting lived around here).#puddingfactory #fourthousandmondays

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I'm excited about an excerpt of my book (You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets) being featured by the The British Psychological Society!Check it out here... and okay, fine, here's a teaser if you need one:Regrets can motivate us to change our behaviour and improve our lives, after we simmer in the uncomfortable awareness of 'what could have been' if we'd only made a way better decision. Oh, the benefit of 20/20 hindsight. Regret actually wins the Best of the Worst award; studies show we value regret more than any of the negative emotions out there, because we accept its functional value to help shepherd our decisions. Let's dive into seven ways regrets (*sigh*) make play an important role in an astonishing life...#britishpsychologicalsociety #fourthousandmondays #carpediem

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Summer! It’s arriving this Thursday, June 20, 2024, at 4:51pm EST, and like life, it’ll slip ‘n slide away from us unless we stop for a hot sec and figure out how to make these 94 days matter.Let’s do a quick temperature check.Where are you on the Summerlicious Heat-o-Meter in the picture below?Regardless of where you sit on the savor-vs-squander-summer-spectrum, can I encourage you to pay just a little more attention to it this year?Not because it might be your last (that kind of talk is even too morbid for me!Although it totally might be your last) but because it represents 13 Mondays out of the 4,000-ish you’ve been allotted in your fabulous-yet-dwindling existence.Paying attention to this summer flexes the “life gets lived around here” muscle and leads to more vitality-filled seasons to come (because when you slay summer, you’re going to want to keep up the momentum and also win winter).Let’s use summer as an excuse to look at a three-month block of our lives and make them count, shall we?Keep reading for"Five Questions to Prevent Summer from Melting Away" along with 39 ideas to make Summer of 2024 count ... #fourthousandmondays #carpediem

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Ryan Berman is an amazing podcast host with a fascinating perspective on the importance of courage in well-lived lives. Check out this conversation we had together… and I dare you to tell me you don’t love this line of his as much as I do: ”courage is regret insurance.” WOW!

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Is there a dream or plan or notion you find yourself talking about ... fairly often ... and then promptly doing absolutely nothing about?You’re not alone.Here’s an assortment of examples:*“I’m going to go back to school to finish my degree someday.”*“I’m going to run a marathon. And then a triathlon!”*“I’m going to start my ferret grooming business for sure one day.”*“I’m going to re-do my website once and for all.”*“I’m going to start meditating in the mornings.”*“I’m going to start looking for a new job.”*“I’m going to put together a little garage band with the guys in the neighborhood who also miss playing music.”*“I’m going to go on a road trip where I visit all the places I’ve lived.”*Etc. etc.Pursuing dreams takes effort, and we tend to prefer the path of least resistance. It’s so much easier to do diddly squat, right? At the end of a long week, we don’t always have the energy to work on the website or the business plan or bike for miles in the rain.Going after goals can be scary,and summoning up the courage to play the drums in front of other humans might feel out of range. Looking for a new job requires a good bit of bravery. Going back to school might involve rejection and failure. It’s tempting to defer a dream when fear’s tentacles are wrapped tightly around our necks.Dreams and goals are delicious and important; let’s never stop conjuring them. But as we’ve discussed beforehere, we sometimes fall into the trap of feelingjust good enoughwhen we talk about our dreams ... just good enough to take zilcho action. Sometimes the dreaming feels adequately satisfying and then all of a sudden four months have gone by and we haven’t moved any closer to starting Fanny’s FancyFerrets.Sometimes we need to take a good hard look in the mirror and ask ourselves where we need to come clean. Where have you maybe been talking about a dream, for a while, but not letting it come to life? (In the post I share my examples of wanting to move and write a book.)There is a cost to saying, “I’m going to ...” and then never doing it.What's the cost?We break integrity with ourselves.When we want something anddon’t do the thing,we train ourselves to believe that our dreams and goals are not only optional (I suppose all self-imposed goals are optional) but also waffly.Unlikely. Dubious.We start to believe that we’re the type of person whose dreams don’t really come true. We start to see ourselves as the kind of person who’s unwilling to work towards things we’ve declared matter. We learn to see ourselves as wannabees. We might even, in our quieter moments (with a drink in hand), think we’re full of sh*t. We start to languish. And then we become the living dead ... walking around with dead dreams fermenting in a body that has a pulse but a beaten-up soul. (Oh! That took a dark turn there, didn’t it?!)Let's talk a big game AND live a big game.Should we all go in together and start that Fancy Ferret empire? #carpediem

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Happy to share that I'll be talking about How to Awaken Your Life with Rich Trigger Bontrager on his Rock the Stage Show this Sunday ... join in if you can.Cheers to living like you mean it in the meantime!

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What a hoot it was to talk with Rich Trigger Bontrager about living like we mean it ... he's launching our conversation on his Sunday night show, so tune in then!Walk away with ideas on how to snap out of autopilot and wake up to life.YouTube Show link:https://lnkd.in/e_hq_E_HPPN Link:https://lnkd.in/gzZNcjAE#fourthousandmondays

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